Male gaze: the truth about gifts for February 23

until February 23, another week, that is seven days, marred by the question "What to give?" Let the standard options: shaving foam, shower gel or socks - they are your man, most likely, and so will be presented with his colleagues from the accounting department. What a present he wants you to do? Respond to this question and to make about how to select the perfect gift, we asked the two men - a psychologist and journalist.

Women love to give, that is their nature. However, this is where the main problem lies in the way to the right surprise for a loved one: since we launched women do naturally, it sometimes does not think about what kind of gift is needed elect. The woman is more important than the fact of giving, there is nothing wrong with that. But once we got down to the theme of "the best possible men's gifts," that should give clear instructions, devoid of poetry and uncertainties.

How do we accept gifts

It is important to understand the difference between men's gift from gift a woman or a child. This is a completely different category, having nothing to do with the hackneyed "children - ice cream lady - flowers": it is just what is a dead end and spreads confusion.

It's about something else: the concept of perception Gift man, woman and child. In particular, the kid wants to get what he wanted. That is for him a gift in any case should prepare someone like Santa Claus, grants wishes. Then the child will be completely satisfied. For women plays an important role of the donor effort. In other words, the desires of optional: the joy she takes the car and a box of chocolates, especially if the man, getting these candies, made ​​his way through a blizzard and ice, shoot the bears came home completely sweat fell on the doorstep and the last effort said: "This is for you, my love!" Here, of course, only a joke share. Naturally, a woman is capable of hitting and expensive gift, but that's not the price, and how a man trying to prove with the help of attention.

As soon as we enter the territory of the men, the concept of a gift is changing dramatically. You can not perform the secret desires of the stronger sex. If you want - try, anything can happen. But as a rule, a man feels pleasure when he is taken to realize his dream. Maybe you are lucky and you find a way how to use the gift to push him to this realization: suddenly presented to you peakless cap stimulates his own money on the yacht. But the thing is too personal, so we are here to advise something. Therefore, let us return to a universal gift that can make any woman in all conditions.

That it is impossible to give a man
1. Dear prezenty

Yes, like a woman like that, but a man is arranged differently. It's his business - not cheap things to please you . Do not climb on male territory. Psychologist Michael Horse, head of the "Center of rational psychology," confident that precious gift that he can not afford a man may give only to the extent that your relationship is fine: "For example, a man is in your content and has become accustomed similar to the picture of the world. In other cases, it can hurt self-esteem partner. "

2. Practical gifts

The new drill? Screwdriver? Forget about it. You know what it means for a man to buy the screwdriver? It is a religious rite, in which you, unfortunately, are not privy. Before you purchase a technical subject, a man comes to him in the mystical connection, what is again only a joke share. If you have not seen how strong the floor talking with a drill - you still ahead. There are difficulties and from a practical point of view: what wrong with the model and specifications of the device. Do not try.

3. Presents from the category of "mi-mi-mi-shki"

Gifts of this kind extremely attracted to women, but it is contraindicated in men. Never try to please a loved one with a soft toy, a joyful picture and other girlish stuff. Despite the absurdity of such attempts by the beautiful half of the cases regularly.

4. Gifts with overtones

Why you should not do, explains Michael Horse: "Our unconscious received gift is perceived as" about what I do not have. " Therefore, if you decide to teach a man shampoo, or, God forbid, socks, how would you say to him: "My dear, you have time to swim and freshen up!" This category applies perfume. It is appropriate to give only the nearest man, who exactly would be happy just this flavor.

Any gift, he will be happy

Firstly, it is a lot of categories "do itself" : cooking , needlework and other masterpieces of art, in which you have invested per capita. This may also include such exotic gift, like a dance. This is a wonderful option because here the woman can show their greatest natural talents. It is important to remember that the perfect gift for the man does not have to be on your "ancestral territory": for example, your "crown" soup to the role of holiday surprises hardly suitable, if you cook it once per week. But could it be, if you've nothing more difficult it fried eggs are not spoiled.

In recent years it has become fashionable to do as photo collages, calendars and video as a gift. According to Michael Horsa, here too there are pitfalls: "Recently, a client showed me a video that has made ​​herself for her man. I rejected him: movie was filled with photos of the giver. She believed that the best gift for men - this image of his women, which is far from the truth. The man in your holiday wants to hear and see a lot of good about yourself as being selfish by nature. "

Second, it presents a series of "fine line": everything that shows him your respect and love. Man just appreciate a present that expresses a restrained form your best feelings for him. Why restrained? Lest he be frank admission and did not force a man to strain to find ways to repay you responsively.

What to do in the end? Think about something that your partner is mentioned recently: for example, he talked about some book, movie, concert or hobby. It is important for you to be sure: he wanted to see, read, listen to or try just that, but he still did not have time. Do not think that a concert ticket or a book - a meaningless trifle. On the contrary, when a man will get them from you, the first thing he will think, "My God! She remembers that our long conversation! And she understands that it is important for me and interesting! "And this, as you know, the most valuable response to your efforts.

In this case the perfect gift for the man to be a surprise, had not informed in advance that are going to deliver. By the way, do it, too, must be correctly: when you pass a present in his hand, just look to the man in the eye. You can not say anything, the effect of such a gift is not superficial - brings you to the deepest part of man's soul. And he will appreciate it.